Ideals

Virtue: Acting in accordance with a moral code.

Honor: Earning and maintaining a reputation for acting in a virtuous manner.

Courage: Taking worthy risks to live virtuously and develop meaningful relationships.

Honesty: Practicing candor with those you trust.

Loyalty: Supporting those who support you.

Civility: Demonstrating courtesy and consideration to all who deserve your respect.

Code of Honor

Ladies and Gentlemen treat each other with kindness and consideration. The first party who reaches the door will open it for the other party, unless otherwise agreed. 

Gentlemen and Ladies take responsibility for their actions. They do not blame others. They admit fault when they believe they are at fault, apologize and make amends. 

Ladies and gentlemen take responsibility for their feelings. They do not shift responsibility by holding others accountable for their feelings. 

Gentlemen and Ladies do not intentionally deceive one another. Neither are they obligated to reveal personal information, opinions or feelings, until they feel comfortable doing so.

Ladies and gentlemen do not gossip about one another regarding information shared in confidence. Information shared openly in public discussion provides tacit consent to share that information with others, unless the speaking party requests confidence. 

Gentlemen and Ladies do not disparage one another behind their backs or on social media. Honest confrontation is encouraged in cases of unacceptable behavior. Discussions with friends about whether a behavior is unacceptable should be conducted while maintaining the anonymity of the person discussed. Lighthearted and playful joking, teasing and banter do not constitute disparagement, unless used as an excuse to put others down. 

Ladies and gentlemen do not intentionally threaten, intimidate or abuse one another either physically or emotionally. Abuse is threat of real harm. Setting expectations, limits and conditions for a partner as a condition of having a relationship does not constitute abuse, it is setting boundaries.  Being in a relationship is a privilege earned, not an entitlement with no obligations.

Gentlemen and Ladies only accept date offers in good faith. Date offers are accepted only when open to the possibility of developing a meaningful relationship, not just to enjoy a free meal at a fancy restaurant.

Ladies and Gentlemen decline date offers with kindness and consideration and are honest about why they are declining, if asked. They show consideration and respect for others feelings.

Gentlemen and Ladies decide how expenses will be handled before dates. It is a personal matter between two individuals to decide what is appropriate. 

Ladies and Gentlemen reveal their relationship status when they begin to date. Any other commitments or situationships should be revealed, as well as preferences such as monogamy and polyamory. 

Gentlemen and Ladies establish clear boundaries for the relationship before engaging in intimacy. Desires and limitations should be discussed and agreed upon.

Ladies and Gentlemen discuss their goals and expectations for the relationship before engaging in intimacy. Expectations related to commitment should be discussed and agreed upon.

Gentlemen and Ladies ask for consent before initiating intimacy. Once consent is given, it is the obligation of the consenter to revoke consent in a clear and unambiguous manner. Consent given is assumed to be ongoing until expressly revoked, unless the parties involved agree to a different arrangement.

Ladies and Gentlemen say considerate goodbyes when they choose to end a relationship and provide honest information about their decision, if asked. Ghosting is unacceptable, except under threatening circumstances. 

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Kirk Arndt

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